Success StoryBarren County 4-H Cloverbud Etiquette Dinner: Learning Manners the Memorable Way
Barren County 4-H Cloverbud Etiquette Dinner: Learning Manners the Memorable Way
Author: Paula Tarry
Planning Unit: Barren County CES
Major Program: Family and Consumer Science
Plan of Work: 4-H and Youth Development
Outcome: Initial Outcome
After observing that many youth today are unsure of how to conduct themselves in formal dining situations, the Barren County 4-H Cloverbud leaders decided it was time to teach good manners early. Their philosophy: “The sooner they learn to do things correctly, the easier it will be later in real-life situations.”
Thus, the Cloverbud Etiquette Dinner was born.
With support from the 4-H Youth Development Agent, Family & Consumer Sciences Agent, and the Barren County Homemakers, the team designed a full sit-down, dress-up meal that provided a fun and educational experience for young members.
- Formal Invitations were sent to all Cloverbuds.
- Boys arrived in suits, shirts, and ties, while girls wore their Sunday best or pageant dresses.
- The 4-H Agent led an interactive lesson on:
- Proper table settings
- Utensil use
- Dinner conversation
- Dining etiquette
The menu, prepared by the Family & Consumer Sciences Agent and Homemakers, included: Chicken fingers (to be cut with a knife), Mashed potatoes, green beans, fruit salad, Roll with butter, dessert, and a drink
Tables were decorated with real dishes, glassware, centerpieces, and tablecloths. At each table, a Homemaker (no parents allowed!) was seated with three Cloverbuds to guide and support them during the meal. The Cloverbuds were served in courses and expected to engage in polite conversation and use the correct utensils—especially for cutting their chicken!
The real evaluation came the following Monday when a father called the 4-H Youth Development Agent, jokingly asking, “When is the etiquette class for parents?” His daughter had insisted that the family now eat every meal at the table, fold napkins in laps, and discuss their day—just like she had learned. She is also helping set the table.
More parents are now asking for the presentation next year!
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